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Romantic Thoughts that Must Be Done

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When I was younger, as a romantic, I always thought it would be great to meet someone in a fantastical way – like rescuing a girl from a burning building perhaps, or from being mauled by a mountain lion.  But as I’ve grown older, my romantic thoughts have grown up, if you will, and infiltrated all the other areas of my life as well, much more than simply the juvenile desires of a high school dreamer.  I have a list of all the different things I want to accomplish in my life, all the random romantic thoughts that have manifested themselves into life goals.  I wanted to share them and see what you all thought of them.  So here they are, in no particular order, my romantic thoughts for life.

Become the only millionaire in the world still living with his parents.

I know it sounds a bit ridiculous.  You’re probably chuckling right now to yourself thinking what in the world is he talking about?  Thoreau, my favorite author once said: “For my greatest skill has been to want but little.”  I’ve spent the last few years living well below my means, living for a year in southeast Asia, and two years at a youth ranch for troubled kids.  I’ve realized that most of the necessities that average Americans think they need really aren’t necessities at all.  Though I sure these romantic idealistic thoughts will change when I find someone who wants to settle down and get married, for now, it’s nice to have the idea swirling about in the spheres of thought.

Become a treasure hunter

There’s no man on the planet that hasn’t secretly dreamed about this one.  And I know there’s a gold nugget or a meteorite somewhere out there with my name on it.

Save the day

Anytime, anywhere, I’ll be ready.

Build my own house

I don’t think there could be anything more satisfying than actually living in a house that you built with your own two hands.  Once I finally get tired of being a millionaire and living with my parents, I’ll stake my claim somewhere and set off to work :)

Open up a Swiss bank account

Because honestly, how cool would that be?  And I’ve heard from different sources that you can’t open up a real Swiss bank account unless you have a million dollars to deposit.  So I’ve found the perfect place to park the millions I’ll eventually earn while still living with my folks.  It’s a perfect plan!!

Fall madly in love with just one girl, and be with her always

She doesn’t have to be in a burning building somewhere. I’ll make an exception just this once.

Make a citizen’s arrest

Especially with the happenings in San Diego recently, I eagerly await the day when I’ll get the chance to tackle some scumbag and say “Don’t move…you’re under arrest.”

Write books that people love

And not just books, but poems as well.  Writing is a beautiful form of expression, and I would love nothing more than to use the written word to inspire people toward something great.

Go on Walkabout

Perhaps you’ve heard of the Aboriginal tradition.  According to the original tradition, it was a rite of passage for manhood where the participant would live in the wilderness for a period of up to six months. There are so many beautiful hills in San Diego, and I’d love to get the chance to leave one day and not come back until I knew the time was right.  To quote Frost: “They would not find me changed from him they knew.  Only more sure of all I thought was true.”  Jesus himself went on Walkabout.  He spent 40 days in the wilderness with nothing to eat, simply thinking and talking to God.



Romantic Thoughts and Wedding Vows

I don’t know why but I started writing my wedding vows the other day.  Being a single guy, that’s kind of strange, even for an old fashioned romantic like me :)  It’s difficult to explain why I wanted to start writing them (romantic thoughts are often inexplicable) but once I started writing them, I couldn’t stop.  Once I sat down with pen and paper to write them, my mind suddenly began to envision what it would be like to someday stand in front of a girl that I’m hopelessly in love with and vow to her the kind of man I want to be and the kind of life I want to live.  And thinking about it brought a new question to mind.  Should I try to be that man even now?  Would she even care that even before I knew her, just the thought of knowing that I would one day stand before God and her and vow to be the kind of man who’s worthy of the love of a girl like her, gave me the resolve to do those things even before meeting her?

Now I’m not going to share the vows that I’ve written.  I don’t think I’ll share them with anyone until the day I share them with everyone.  But I will share the poem that I also composed while caught up in the swirl of romantic thoughts that made me first want to start working on the wedding vows.  It may not be meaningful to anyone but me.  I hope you enjoy it though.  Tell me what you think of it.

“This little spot I remember well
The ground where those few teardrops fell
When we went for a walk that Summer’s eve
And I gave you ring that would never leave.
And you gave me a smile that’s always near
A new day’s dawn shone through our fear.
Our hope sank deep and washed us new
And shadows trembled at the glow of you.”

Having lived in many different places, (the jumbled cities of third world Cambodia, and the solitude of the woods of Minnesota) I’ve considered myself an astute observer of human nature, of men especially.  Men are so often a mass of contradictions.  I have seen men do crazy things for love, make themselves fools and sacrifice all their comforts and pleasures to go after the person they love.  And then, almost immediately, once they get what they fought so hard to attain, they begin to let it go, reverting back to their original nature and doing those things again which originally caused love to be far from them.

I don’t want to live my life that way, but so often I do.  I make heroic strides toward being a better man and living life to the full, and then I somehow forget and go back to my original nature.  The Apostle Paul once said:

“I do not understand what I do.  For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.”

That’s why I first loved the idea of beginning to write down my wedding vows.  I wanted something that would remind what kind of man I really wanted to be, so I could remind myself during those times of forgetting.  I don’t know if that makes sense.  I hope it does.


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Quotes to Live By — Romantic Thoughts

The last quote to live by that I mentioned was from my favorite time period, the ancient world.  It got me searching through all the other quotes to live by from that time period that I haven’t read in a really long time.  One in particular, was a romantic quote from the ancient Persian poet, Rumi.  His quote actually was one of the first influential quotes in my life that set my mind a’pondering romantic thoughts, and eventually convincing me that I ought to be a romantic.

“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”  Rumi

When I was younger, I was confronted with a question: “Should I try and find the right person, or try and be the right person?”  Everyone wants to find love, but most people spend all their time searching for the right person without ever giving much thought to becoming the right person for someone else.  When I was younger, I spent so much time looking for that perfect someone.  But then I read quotes like this one, and they made me wonder, what kind of man would that perfect someone want to fall in love with?  Should I be spending all my time looking for her, or should I be spending more of my time becoming the kind of man that a girl like that could really fall in love with?

I chose the latter, to be a romantic, and I set out to remove the barriers to love that I had built within myself.  Of all the romantic quotes to live by I’ve come across, this one has been the most powerful.  It inspired the romantic thoughts that make me who I am today.  I very much hope you enjoyed it!


Sunsets and Romantic Thoughts

I’ve always loved sunsets, how the sun changes hues from lightly sparkling yellow to deeply molten red, the light slowly giving way to the darkness all the while, and strange romantic thoughts suddenly striking the mind, seemingly from nowhere.  Whenever I really sit down and look at a sunset, I feel a strange contradiction of emotions — a deep sense of wellbeing washing up with the last of the fading beams, yet on the other hand, a sense of missing potential as though life was meant for something more than what I’ve yet lived.

Whenever I watch the sun slowly descend upon the world, I’m always struck by a strange and timeless notion that the world is still full of possibility.  I feel a connection to the grand, elusive scheme intertwining all of humankind, and am struck by something indefinable, that though I cannot define, still compels me to want to do better with my life than what I have done so far.  Those of you who know me know that I love to quote my favorite authors.  This one is one of my absolute favorites from Henry David Thoreau.  “When we are unhurried and wise we perceive that only great and worthy things have any absolute and permanent existence, that petty fears and petty pleasures are but the shadow of reality.”

Perception is such an odd thing.  Most of my days, I perceive very little beyond the duties of the day and the simple pleasures found within each one.  But then, every so often, when I genuinely stop to gaze at a sunset, or walk a moonlit path, suddenly I perceive something more, something grand and compelling that seems to fill up the night.  And once that happens, once I perceive something truly great and wonderful, I am compelled to do better with my life.  I cannot simply live resigned to simple pleasures and routines.  It’s so odd to me that I can be manipulated by such whimsical forces.  But I’m glad for the fact, glad that every now and again, something can break me free from the normal day to day and give me a glimpse of those welcomed romantic thoughts I often push away from my mind.

I’m sure that I’m not the only one who experiences this strange romantic phenomenon.  And this is not the phenomenon of regret, where being alone causes a person to think about all the mistakes they’ve made, and the things they’ve lost that can never be gotten back.  This is something different, something hopeful and full of potential.  For those of you who aren’t in a place where you get to see beautiful sunsets, here’s an awesome romantic poem from Thomas Moore about a sunset:

“How dear to me the hour when daylight dies
And sunbeams melt along the silent sea.
For then sweet dreams of other days arise
And memory breathes her vesper sigh to me
And as I watch the line of light that plays
Along the smooth wave toward the burning west
I long to tread that golden path of rays
And think, twould lead to some bright isle of rest.”


On Being a Dreamer — Romantic Thoughts

I have often thought of myself as being a dreamer.  I read an intriguing blog post by Jodi at Joy Discovered, about the power of perception in our lives, and it intrigued me to write on the topic.  Her post reminded me of a quote from Thoreau that I’ve always loved, one that is the basis for why I don’t mind being a dreamer.  He said:

Nothing remarkable was ever accomplished in a prosaic mood. The heroes and discoverers have found true more than was previously believed, only when they were expecting and dreaming of something more than their contemporaries dreamed of, or even themselves discovered, that is, when they were in a frame of mind fitted to behold the truth.

Perception is so important.  Not only of what is, and of what has been, but most importantly, of what could one day be.  What we dream about often dictates who we become.  The greatest temptation in my life has always been to settle for good enough — to blind myself to the possibility that truly grand things exist in the world to be found.  Mediocrity has been my greatest struggle.  Dreaming is truly a courageous act.



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