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The last quote to live by that I mentioned was from my favorite time period, the ancient world. It got me searching through all the other quotes to live by from that time period that I haven’t read in a really long time. One in particular, was a romantic quote from the ancient Persian poet, Rumi. His quote actually was one of the first influential quotes in my life that set my mind a’pondering romantic thoughts, and eventually convincing me that I ought to be a romantic.
“Your task is not to seek love, but merely to find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” Rumi
When I was younger, I was confronted with a question: “Should I try and find the right person, or try and be the right person?” Everyone wants to find love, but most people spend all their time searching for the right person without ever giving much thought to becoming the right person for someone else. When I was younger, I spent so much time looking for that perfect someone. But then I read quotes like this one, and they made me wonder, what kind of man would that perfect someone want to fall in love with? Should I be spending all my time looking for her, or should I be spending more of my time becoming the kind of man that a girl like that could really fall in love with?
I chose the latter, to be a romantic, and I set out to remove the barriers to love that I had built within myself. Of all the romantic quotes to live by I’ve come across, this one has been the most powerful. It inspired the romantic thoughts that make me who I am today. I very much hope you enjoyed it!
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you have written on this before…it is so true…when we have prepared ourselves love will arrive, in it own time. great post ben!
Thanks very much! I very much respect your opinion in this area because you’re already at the place where I want to be someday. So thank you very much!
Most people are always looking for the right or perfect person. They are going to be disappointed time and again because there is no perfect person in this world. What we can do is to see the perfection in the imperfection of the one we love. And how if we know if a person is the right one for us? That we can never know. Sometimes we have to find out along the way and sometimes we have to trust our own instinct.
I agree with you that in order for us to be loved, we need to be lovable.
I agree with you, there is no perfect someone. Any ideal is rarely possible in the world. That’s what makes them an ideal I think. But it’s nice to fight for them anyway. I think that’s the real key right there. In my mind, ideals aren’t ever meant to be found. They’re meant to inspire us to better ourselves as men and women. And what you said is absolutely true, when you love someone, they’re imperfections and unique qualities are what you really end up falling in love with anyway.
Ben, this is so beautiful!
Thank you
In reply to the quote you posted, more often than not most people set standards so high when it comes in finding their ideal partner although there is nothing wrong with that because it is their right but I guess it will just hinder them to find love or be found by love because they are not contented in what they want as they always seek for perfection. Guess, to find and be found by love one should always have an open heart and mind. In addition, instead of finding the right person for us, I think it would be better if we should prepare ourselves to be the right person for our soon to be partner.
About finding the perfect person for us– it makes me remember the quote that when it comes to love we should not find a perfect person but learn to see an imperfect person perfectly.
I like that quote you mentioned at the end. That’s a very good way of describing it. And I very much agree with you, to find love, a person needs to have an open heart and mind. When people close themselves down and get jaded, that’s when love no longer comes to find them. Thanks very much for your insights and comments!
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